Ask yourself why you are here. What is my purpose? Nail down what you are here for. That will give you a clarity of how you can structure the rest of your life. The clarity may help you in many ways. To stop and think deeply is the best thing to do. You always have choices. You are never a victim, unless you become totally unconscious. You have free will to choose. Emotions are creative. But then you should ask yourself, "is this the right emotion." To work with emotions, there are a few things you can do:You must somehow spend this creative energy. Ask yourself what you would do. You don't want to spend this whole lifetime spending this old emotion. So how to exhaust it: There are one of two ways: just fantasy.